Obviously, if you are reading this, you are one of the smart guys. Why are you a smart guy? Well, because a smart guy knows that when he is not doing so great at something (i.e. dating!) he needs to go find some help. So you went out looking for some dating tips for guys, and you have found a great article, so keep reading!

I know so many men that are looking for sincere, easy to follow dating tips for men – yet when they get the dating advice they have been looking for, they misinterpret what is being said and screw it up – ending up with some misguided notion about how to treat ladies and making the guys who GIVE the dating advice look like nothing more than a bunch of wanna-be pick up artists.

The well meaning men want to be an alpha male – they want to be leaders of the pack – self-confident , successful and attractive to ladies. Yet they take this characteristic and shape it into something wrong – something that was totally opposite, egotistical, contemptuous and ugly.

You have probably heard about becoming an alpha male – most guys have. But most men get it all wrong, because they take the prevalent characteristics that ladies have, such as consideration, benevolence and bigheartedness, and think that in order to be a masculine man or an alpha male, that a man has to be the OPPOSITE of this.

That is a HUGE mistake.

If you want to be a man, a real man who is a leader and a go getter, someone with confidence and appeal to ladies, you have to learn to master the virtues of what a real alpha male is. Real alpha men are not …

• mean spirited
• egotistical
• cruel
• followers
• without thought

Real alpha men ARE, on the other hand…

direct
secure
considerate
empathetic
unselfish
leaders

Men , being falsely cast alpha males, are often thought to be without the qualities and traits commonly thought of as womanly or feminine. However, virtues and characteristics of the alpha male are the characteristics and values that one would want to see in a good, effective, committed leader – no matter if that leader is a man or a woman.

For instance, an alpha male, as the leader of his “pack”, will look out for the good of his party. If we consider the group to be his family, he is a attentive father who takes care of and provides for his children. He teaches them potent and clear virtues such as honesty, kindness, hard work and compassion. He teaches them to treat people with dignity and respect, but he also teaches them to treat themselves with dignity and respect, caring for oneself by taking care of the body, mind and spirit.

Alpha males do not allow others to push them around and cheat, lie or steal. They stand up for those who are in need, fight for virtue and honesty, defend the weak, help the poor and sick and provide for those less able and less fortunate than themselves.

Put in some terms, some folks might think to call these womanly or motherly virtues – however, they can just as easily be applied to the man who has a true and strong idea of his own characteristics. Vices and virtues are equally applied to both sexes, and simply because ladies carry the stereotype for having one set of virtues does not mean that the men , the REAL men, have to be the opposite.

There is nothing masculine about kicking those who are down, war, rape, pillage and thievery. There is no honor in making fun of people, capitalizing on the downfalls and problems of others. Alpha males do not do this – they are upright and strong, not needing to look for the misfortune of others in order to get ahead of the game.

If you want to learn a little more about being a real alpha male that attracts ladies, check out this free dating tips for men video by Scot McKay and learn a very simple step that YOU can take today to become the alpha man that women are attracted to without fail.

I want to introduce you to a unique concept that may finally change how you view your game with women.
I want to introduce you to a unique concept that may finally change how you view your game with women. First, let’s talk about your inner monologue, dude.

One of the most powerful personal development methods you can use to alter the course of your life (your DESTINY, really) is through the use of QUESTIONS.

Questions cut through and clarify the current state of affairs, and they help you see what may not have been visible before. However, they can only do this if you have the guts to answer them TRUTHFULLY. The man who lies to himself can never see the world clearly, and will then subject every bit of his reality to illusion – like looking at the world through distorted glass. In the short-term, he’ll make himself feel ‘better’ about things by lying to himself, but in the long-term he’ll just ensure his own failure.

Success is fleeting when it’s based on faulty understanding.

Ask yourself a few questions to clarify where YOU are right now:

• Are you looking for just one woman to “settle down” with? If so, why?
• Do you want to sleep with as many women as you can? And why?
• Are you feeling that your skills in meeting and getting women interested in you are where you want them to be? If not, what are you doing to remedy this situation?
• If you know you want something (a woman, a new job, a more comfortable social life), what is stopping you from having it?
• Do you ever feel incapable of doing the things you know you need to do? Do you wish you had a “magic button” you could push that would get you in gear when you need to?

These questions focus on the one critical element of any drive to change your life: your MOTIVATION. Asking yourself questions allows you to find out what it is that kicks you in the ass and gets you moving toward your goals.

Without understanding what it is that drives you, you could spend your whole life saying something like this:
“I wish I knew somewhere to go to meet women.”
“I have the worst luck with women.”
“Yeah, I’ll be at work late. You know me – I’ve got no life.” (Even jokingly.)
“I’m happy being single.” (When it’s a cop-out for failures with women.)
“Yeah, I know, BUT…” (”But” what?)
“I’ll just rent a movie at home tonight…”
“I can’t find any women that are right for me…” (While only “meeting” one woman every couple of weeks or months at best.)

If there’s one person you have to tell the truth to in the end, it’s yourself, guys. The reality is that the ONLY way to improve your situation with women is to get out there and interact with MORE women. Of every kind imaginable. Friends, lovers, acquaintances, you name it. QUANTITY is the name of the game. MORE women means MORE opportunities. It’s a simple numbers game.

MORE women means more successes… and more failures. Remember that the sports superstars don’t just succeed more, they also fail more. But the failures aren’t failures to them, and they don’t mean anything to them. When you’re in a scarcity (and SCARED-ity) mindset, the failures hurt so much because they comprise a high proportion of your game.

If you meet 2 women and strike out with 1, that’s 50%. If you meet 10 women and strike out with 5, that’s still 50%, but you bet your ass you don’t care as much when you’ve got the other 5 saying “Yes, please.” Your RATIO of failures is the same, but you’ve just multiplied your successes by FIVE.

Pretty slick, huh? Let’s call this seduction math.

If the woman you’re looking for is one-in-a-thousand, guess how many women you’re likely to have to go through to find her?

“Uhhh…. heheh… Dude… I’m not good at math…”

Well, it would be nice if she showed up in the first ten or fifteen, but that’s not how Murphy’s Law works. If you have a 1 in 1000 shot, chances are your number will come up right around the end… say, Ms. 999 or Ms. 1000. So get busy.

If you find yourself saying “I’m just not lucky with women,” it’s nothing about LUCK. It’s that you aren’t exposing yourself to enough women to warrant MORE success.

EVERY question and problem works itself out if you approach enough women. EVERY bit of understanding and skill comes from the number of women you get into your life by taking action. Knowledge isn’t power – it’s only POTENTIAL. ACTION is what separates the men from the boys.

EVERY problem you’re having with your dating life right now can be traced back to some root causes, but most wind up being that guys simply don’t TRY enough. They don’t try, and they don’t succeed, and then they don’t ask themselves the all-important question:
What can *I* do to change this situation, instead of blaming something outside my control or sphere of influence?

And, that all-important follow up:
What do I need to start thinking in order to motivate myself to actually DO IT?

Ask yourself those hard questions. The difference in the quality of your life can be traced back to the decisions you make every day.

And every decision started out as a question.

Have you ever heard a woman ask the question, “Where have all the real men gone?”  I know, you want to just shake her and ask her what the HELL she is talking about, right?  Well, the thing is – it seems that this “sensitive revolution” has basically neutered the male population.

Some people attribute that to the fact that more and more men are being raised by single women.  Others say that we are all doing it to ourselves – taking everything out of life that might accidentally offend an individual’s beliefs – trying to neuter EVERYTHING (like taking “God” out of the pledge of allegiance, taking the discipline out of schools and making sure everything that we say is politically correct to name a few methods).

Whatever you believe – it’s happening.  Society is turning Namby Pamby – and the women are the ones voicing it, asking where all the real men have gone.   To try to find a REAL man, women have developed a screening process – a test, if you will, to see if a man is a real man, or a wuss in man’s clothing.

You’ll notice women doing this when they are exploring the possibility of a relationship with you – like on a first date, or when things begin to become intimate.  This is how the beautiful women separate the men from the boys.  She is trying to find out, basically, if you are an alpha male.

There are many forms tests can take, of course, but once you are familiar with a few of them, you will be able to recognize them for what they are, and PASS them.  She might ask you for a gift or something she wants.  She could act snotty or have a tantrum, to see what she can get away with, or cancel your plans without notice to see what you do.  She might even tell you that you are annoying her to see if you will change your behavior.  (By the way, I learned all this by watching David DeAngelo’s program called On Being a Man!)

Now – these things may seem small to you.  However, to a woman, they are CRITICAL.  If you fail one of these tests, she is going to do one of two things – she is going to realize you are a wuss and not a real man and will walk all over you until she gets bored with you and then she will leave, or she will just realize you are a wuss and leave then.

So – how do you pass these tests and show her you are an alpha male?  Well, let’s imagine for a moment that you are a wolf – the leader of the pack, the alpha male who gets ALL the females in the pack.  If a female wolf came up tot eh alpha male and said, “Buy me this pretty trinket and I will give you the night of your life…” – what do you think he would do?  Would he go running off to the nearest wolf jewelry store and buy it?  Or would he laugh and say “Are you serious???  I hope not, because if you have not noticed, there are plenty of females in this pack besides you.”

Or, say for instance, one of the female wolves tells the alpha male that she is annoyed by something he does.  Does the alpha wolf say “OMG I am SO sorry!  I won’t EVER do that again!”   (I actually can see David DeAngelo cringing at that, sorry man!)  Uhhhhh – NO.  He will give her a playful smile and say, “Oh REALLY?” – and then he will do it again just to show her that she is not the alpha – HE IS.

And guys – this is IMPORTANT.  Women talk about Prince Charming – how they just KNOW he is out there and what all he will do for them.  But did you ever notice that Prince Charming has to know how to fight, how to keep the kingdom running, sweep her off her feet and take her to a destination of HIS choosing?  Prince Charming does not ask the Princess if she would like to be rescued today.  He takes charge and DOES IT, and she will follow.  If you want to learn more about being an alpha male, then take a look at David DeAngelo’s program, On Being a Man, and start giving women what they really want.

While most men have trouble approaching women, some have it worse than others. No matter how many times these guys rehearse lines in their heads, when faced with a woman they find themselves tongue-tied, sweaty-palmed, and unable to even make eye contact. If this describes you, then you really need to take a moment to absorb some of David Deangelo’s dating tips for guys.

You see, you can rehearse lines and act out scenarios in your head all day long, but this won’t cure your inability to approach women. The problem is that you need to work on your Inner Game. This is the crown jewel in David Deangelo’s advice for guys, and it is all about getting you to believe that you are capable of not only approaching, but also getting dates with beautiful, unapproachable women.

The Deep Inner Game is not about the women you want to date, it is about you. Before you even start memorizing pick-up lines, you need to get your head in the right place, and start believing in yourself. You need to begin by letting go of every negative experience you have ever had trying to pick up women. If you walk up to a woman with a killer pick-up line, but a defeatist attitude, you will never get anywhere! Women are not interested in guys with low self-esteem. Women love confidence, energy, and man who make them laugh.

When you approach a woman, you must convince yourself that she is very attracted to you, that she can’t wait to get your number, and that you are approaching her because she was looking at you. It isn’t necessary for you to actually feel this way- you basically are going to fake it until you have convinced yourself that it is true. Approach her as though you know that you will be going home with her number, and you just might.

You should adopt an alpha-male posture: shoulders back, easy smile, and full eye contact. Don’t overdo it!  When approaching women, flash a nice smile and make a positive comment that will get things going on the right track. Don’t compliment her, just  reflect on how great the DJ is, what a beautiful night it is, and so on.

Like anything else in life, approaching women takes practice. You will never get good at this unless you practice a lot. Part of practice means dealing with rejection, and this is something you simply have to accept beforehand. The good news is that the more you deal with rejection, the easier it gets, and the less frequent it becomes. As you practice your approach, your body language will actually begin to reflect your confidence and comfort, and it will make you irresistible to women. But don’t take it from me, get out there and see for yourself!

Some men are nice guys.  And then, some men are “nice guys” – you know the ones – the ones that have a ton of female friends but have never had a girlfriend in their whole life?  These men, these doomed, lost brothers who are stuck in the dreaded “friend zone” NEED to read this article.  I’m going to tell you what these “Nice Guys” are doing wrong.  And maybe, just maybe, you could be making some of those same mistakes.

There are several key concepts that are LAW when it comes to attracting women.   These are in no particular order, but they are each very important to understand if you want to know what makes attraction work – and use that to your OWN advantage.

Getting right to it – the first of these immutable laws is that Attraction is NOT a choice.  I know you have probably heard dating advice experts like David Deangelo or Lance Mason say that before – but the thing is – it’s true.  Attraction isn’t a choice.  You don’t look at someone and think, “Hey!  I want to be attracted to HER!”

The second law of attraction – the attractive people have the pick of the pack.  In particular – the hot women.  They can almost any man they want, right?  They know it.  Men tell them!  All the time!  Beautiful women are approached CONSTANTLY.  Every day – several times a day.  So try to see this from HER point of view – if she gave her attention to every Chuck Schmuck that wanted it, she could not get through a day.  So if you want her attention, you better earn it.

The third rule in attraction is that attraction does not always make sense.  Think about it.  Every woman wants a great guy to treat her wonderfully, bring her flowers and open doors for her.  But she gets him, and she loses interest in about two weeks.  Why?  She is not ATTRACTED to him.  Logically, she should be.  At the gut level – she is not.

Law four – STATUS is very important when it comes to ATTRACTION. Beautiful girls are rarely attracted to men perceived to be of a lower status than they are.  Being the Alpha Male is a must if you are looking to attract women.

The thing is – women are on the lookout for the man that sparks that attraction in her.  She may not even know what that “thing” is, but …I do.  That thing that women want is the man to be a real MAN.  Not a wuss, not a wimp, not a “nice guy”.  That may seem counterintuitive – but let me ask you this – how’s your current game plan working out for you so far?

What can you do to stop this attraction killing behavior?  There are a few simple steps you can take to get your cajones back and get the girl.  One – stop being NICE to attractive women.  No compliments, no pleasing her, no gifts, no crap just to make her like you.  As a matter of fact – bust on her a bit.  Tell her she is a brat.  Tell her she is being bad and you won’t talk to her until she can be nice. 

Two – tell an attractive women no at least once every single day.  Doesn’t have to be big – but when some hot woman asks you to hand her the newspaper at the coffee shop – tell her no.  Of course, you can wait a few minutes while she grabs her jaw off the floor and then give her what she was asking for, but just bust her bubble if you can.

Three – respect YOURSELF and grow a pair, you know what I mean?  Remember that you are YOU, and do not put aside your personality, your beliefs or your wants and needs for any woman.  Or anyone, for that matter.  Respect yourself and you will get respect.